Winston Churchill once said . . .

having enemies is good because it means that you've stood up for something, sometime in your life. (I've paraphrased it, of course.)

Yes, this is true. Standing up for what you believe in or defending yourself or someone brings enemies, that's inevitable. But, on the other hand, it is not good to encourage, for a lack of a better term, yourself to have enemies or stay enemies with someone. I am not contradicting myself. Simply put, Mr. Churchill and me have different views on things. And him being the better (and older) philosopher (well, i don't consider myself as one), people tend to believe and follow what he says.

But listen. Please listen. Or rather, read on.

Forgiveness is a promise not a feeling, a friend once told me. In forgiving, you promise to forget or at least not think about other's misgivings and shortcomings always. You think first of the years of laughter, tears, shared secrets, and friendship you have or have shared before thinking of the one moment when he/she made you lose your ire. For you to be a good friend, you have to see the many good things about that person first before seeing the few bad. Now, that's true friendship.

I know that good/greatest friends are the meanest enemies. But I ask you, who refuse to forgive, didn't it cross your mind during the time you were giving him/her the cold shoulder, that it's such a waste to put your years of friendship out the window? Don't you miss him/her companionship/friendship?

I know that I should mind my own business, and that I know less (if not none) on this matter. But I've seen how great friends you all are. I hate to see such great friendships end and worse, I hate to see the best-est friends ending them. And I hate to see myself doing nothing about it.

Believe me, no one benefits from this self-waged war. All are affected. All are hurting. So I will not take sides. But rather, I'tll tell alll of you who are in a fight (now or before) . . .


Forgive, friends. Forgive.